We shape our self to fit this world and by the world are shaped again.
The visible and the invisible working together in common cause, to produce the miraculous.
~ David Whyte
I often receive requests to hammer out and sort through money-oriented questions in my consulting sessions.
- Do I begin to talk about money in my core relationships even though it scares me?
- Do I pay for my child’s college or private school?
- Do I leap into this artistic project?
- Do I sell the company I’ve built the last X years?
- Is it possible that my trauma fosters these patterns in my money story?
- Do we risk borrowing this money to fund the next phase of our business?
- How do we get out of this version of poverty?
- Do we have enough money to leave this job or retire?
Each of these instantly activate my heart, my mind, and my entire being as I consider all the possibilities that stem from attaching these particular questions to peoples’ larger existence.
The questions – on the surface – are about money.
Yes and No.
If I dig deeper, these questions are actually about the shape of people’s lives. The questions reside in the place where internal pulses meet external realities; they take shape in budgets, income brackets, payment plans, and future dreams.
Every person’s financial existence is shaped by their past, their choices, and their unique societal position and pressure. So when these questions whirl my direction, I begin to wonder if the shape of people’s lives can actually be changed? Can someone “look like this” in their relationship to money and then, “look like this?”
Financial questions access a portal of change by inviting the questioner to a threshold; monetary guidance is the entry point to a whole new way of being.
Perhaps the deeper, most important question is whether or not people are ready for financial existence transformation; this is the phrase I use when people are willing to see their monetary questions as activators of change.
Stated another way: Shapeshifting.
In mythology, folklore and speculative fiction,
shapeshifting is the ability of a being or creature to
completely transform its physical form or shape.
Just like water, financial realities are always shifting. The creature (or human) that is in the midst of that flow is always changing, as well. The change might not be consciously noticeable, not an entire physical transformation like the word shapeshifting elicits. But, any change – big or small – is powerful. Therefore, I hold great hope that all humans can re-shape their financial existence – drastically or incrementally.
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What does it look like for you to have a Shapeshifted Financial Perspective?
Here are some ideas, some ways in which you might begin to consider your own shapeshifting, your own financial transformation:
Live in the Present. Calculate for the Future.
Annualize your monthly expenses. If you pay for cable, it’s $1,800 per year, not $150/month. If you buy a car, the real cost is approximately $35,000, not $400/month across 7 – 8 years. Starbucks coffee 3x/week is not $4/ drink, but $48/month or about $600/year. Annualizing your expenses is one way to live in the present while activating the future. A Shapeshifted Perspective is aware of present expenses while shaping future existence.
Imagine Your Future Self.
Consider your future life. Yes, this requires imagination and vision. Even more, it requires you to speak to your future self.
- What does your future self need?
- What does your future self desire?
- Are your current decisions building the future you envision?
Every decision you make orchestrates a chain reaction which eventually lands you 10, 20, 30, 40 years down the road – in the blink of an eye and in the next reality. Yes, there are always life’s unknown, circuitous, and uncontrollable paths; but, I’ve come to realize that many people underestimate the controllable micro-decisions that lead to macro-livelihood realities.
The present links to the future in powerful ways – just like the compound effect of dripping water carves out enormous caves. Don’t underestimate the dripping, constant financial decisions that produce beautiful shapes and spacious options. A Shapeshifted Perspective can be just as beautiful and spacious!
Be an Evolutionary and a Revolutionary
I often say, “To think strategically – with discernment, intuition, and focus – is to be a revolutionary.” I’ve witnessed the consistent and steady engagement of financial awareness across time that grows a savings account, or funds school, or buys a car, or travels the world. It is often uncommon to activate and feel the refining, evolutionary process of compound decisions over time; but a powerful psychological muscle and inner resiliency is cultivated with each decision implemented from discernment, intuition, and focus.
Because we are shaped by our world (past, present, and future), we have a chance to use this world to shape ourselves again to produce the miraculous. Similarly, you have the opportunity to reshape your present financial perspective and welcome your next form of being.
Transformation is both continual destination and answer.
Accept the invitation to change your financial shape - again and again.
Shapeshifting is possible and miracles will occur.