Motherhood: Celebrating The "Other Moments"

Beyond the major milestones of parenting, it's the smaller moments that make up our lives with our families.
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ORIGINAL ARTWORK BY ROSIE BOWKER

ORIGINAL ARTWORK BY ROSIE BOWKER

In addition to working as a full-time PR and copywriting consultant, Raluca State writes about life as a mother with two kids. Today, she introduces her new motherhood column for The Fold by reflecting on the importance of the small but significant moments with family. We're thrilled to have her here to help us usher in our new space.

I have been thinking a lot about the "other moments" lately. When it comes to motherhood, we're so often consumed by the big ones: first birth plan, first steps, first milestones. We are surrounded in the early years by resources and stories and advice (for better or for worse) to help us navigate this new journey and reflect on all the "big" moments that make up motherhood.

But I am beyond those moments, in a lot of ways.

I am a working mother of a 10-year-old girl and a six-year-old boy and while there are certainly still innumerable lessons in parenting in my future, it''s the other moments that make up my daily life today. They are not all major milestones or life lessons or clichés about motherhood. They are the other moments that come into play once your kids are a little older. Once sleeping through the night is no longer your greatest concern. Once you have firmly moved beyond all the important firsts…and now you're moving onto the important "everything else." The seemingly mundane discussions that turn into so much more. The moments of growth that have nothing to do with a milestone. The questions that pop up over a quick drive to the store and make you question…everything.

That's what I am here at The Fold to share with you. Those other moments. Some are poignant, some are funny. Some you will relate to and some will (hopefully) stick with you. Some will simply make you think. And that will be enough. Because even at the phase of motherhood I am in now – cruise control, as my husband and I like to call it on most days – I still look for inspiration. For a little reassurance here and there. For a community that wants to discuss motherhood beyond just the dos and don'ts and how-tos. And I have a feeling you may be, too.

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