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Thoughts On Change & Circumstance From Six Fold Women

In all the stories we've told, we've amassed quite the collection of wisdom—especially pertaining to the intersection of change and circumstance. Here is a bit of advice to guide you on your journey.
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Change can be invited or thrust upon us, and dealing with either can be trying at best. Many women have graced us with their words of wisdom, so we've compiled a bit of advice on change, transition, and evolution—as our hope is that you find necessary motivation in these anecdotes and stories. (And here is more advice on career and living a creative life from six fearless Fold women.)

"For the longest time I stood in my own way. It's sort of a boring story but mostly I was in fear, in a total panic that there would be no way I could be a film director and be self-supporting. For years, I did all of this work adjacent to what I really wanted, which was to be an artist....Most recently, now that I am a director, it’s about fine tuning the vision, its so easy to self abandon no matter how much you are standing in your truth. I often have to ask myself, Is this ok? Is this the vision?" Read more from writer and director Rachel Fleit about her life evolution, and how she navigated and manifested change. 

"It’s hard for many of us to admit when we’ve completely screwed something up. As women in particular, we carry not only the responsibilities of work and family life, but are expected to smile and be gracious and humble through it all. It’s bullshit, really. But the hardest part is wading through our own BS – the truths we’ve told ourselves in order to navigate our everyday existence." Read more from Jen CK Jacobs on divorce, ending a marriage, and the evolving journey of finding a sense of self amidst it all.

"I think it has to do with letting go of expectations and embracing what you have. This mindfulness practice has really helped me get through the last few years. When you let go of social pressures and should be's... you learn to embrace a messy but beautiful life, and that can be applied to everything, even to home." Read more about Chelsea Fuss's charming, intimate Portugal home, and how she built a life in her own time and on her own terms.

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